What should I be looking for in a husband?

Answer

When a Christian woman is seeking a husband, she should look for a man who is “after God’s own heart” «And when he had removed him, he raised up unto them David to be their king; to whom also he gave testimony, and said, I have found David the son of Jesse, a man after mine own heart, which shall fulfil all my will. », (Acts 13:22). The most crucial relationship any of us have is our personal relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. This relationship takes precedence over all others. If our vertical relationship with the Lord is right, then our horizontal relationships will reflect that truth. Therefore, a potential husband should be a man who focuses on obeying God’s Word and strives to live in a way that glorifies God «Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God. », (1 Corinthians 10:31).

What are some other qualities to consider? The apostle Paul outlines the qualities to seek in a husband in 1 Timothy chapter 3. These are the standards for a leader in the church community. However, these attributes should adorn the lives of any man who follows “after God’s heart.” The qualities can be summarized as follows: a man should be patient and self-controlled, not arrogant but level-headed, able to manage his emotions, kind to others, skilled in teaching patiently, not given to excesses or misuse of God’s gifts, not inclined to violence, not overly concerned with trivial matters but focused on God, not quick-tempered or easily offended, and appreciative of God’s blessings rather than envious of others’ gifts.

The aforementioned qualities depict a man who is actively involved in the process of maturing as a believer. This is the kind of man a woman should seek as a potential spouse. While physical attraction, shared interests, complementary strengths and weaknesses, and the desire for children are important factors to consider, they should take a back seat to the spiritual attributes that a woman should seek in a man. A man who is trustworthy, respectable, and leads in the pursuit of godliness holds more value than a man with good looks, fame, power, or wealth.

Ultimately, when searching for a husband, we must submit to God’s will in our lives. Every woman dreams of finding her “prince charming,” but the truth is that she will likely marry a man with flaws similar to her own. Then, with God’s grace, they will spend their lives together learning how to support and serve each other. We should enter into the second most significant relationship of our lives (marriage) with clear eyes, not clouded by emotions. Our most crucial relationship, with our Lord and Savior, must remain the focal point of our lives.