Should Christians use mediation to settle disputes?

Answer

Mediation is a method of resolving conflicts between two or more parties. In mediation, a mediator acts as a facilitator, ensuring that all perspectives are heard and acknowledged. The chosen mediator remains neutral and impartial, facilitating a respectful exchange of ideas to help conflicting parties reach a satisfactory resolution. Typically, mediation results in a contract that is drafted and signed by all parties involved, agreeing to adhere to its terms. This contract can be legally filed or used as an informal agreement among the parties. Mediation is an effective way to avoid costly court proceedings, ensure that everyone’s viewpoints are considered, and empower all parties to have some influence over the resolution of their dispute.

Jesus may have alluded to mediation in a parable: “Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court. Do it while you are still together on the way, or your adversary may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison” « Make peace quickly with your adversary while you are on the way to court with him, or he may hand you over to the judge, and the judge to the guard, and you will be thrown into prison. », (Luke 12:58, NLT). His underlying message was that we should strive to reconcile with God before facing judgment. Jesus used this illustration to emphasize the importance of seeking reconciliation even in the context of lesser, earthly disputes. It is prudent to pursue harmony with others and avoid legal proceedings whenever possible. By actively resolving our conflicts, we can achieve far better outcomes than by leaving things to chance.

Mediation can play a constructive role in a Christian’s interactions with others. It is natural not to always see eye to eye on everything.In conflicts, wise and mature individuals seek external perspectives to help balance the issues at stake. The Bible provides various instances of effective informal mediation. Paul instructed the church in Philippi to serve as mediators between two of their conflicting members, Euodia and Syntyche (Philippians 4:2-3). Moses acted as a mediator between the rebellious Israelites and the Lord (Exodus 32:31-32). The ultimate example of mediation is Jesus Christ, the Son of God, who serves as the sole mediator between God and humanity (1 Timothy 2:5; Hebrews 9:15). Mediation is clearly endorsed by the Bible and should be pursued whenever a dispute cannot be adequately resolved by the parties involved.