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The common notion of a “soul mate” suggests that each person has a perfect match, and marrying anyone else will lead to unhappiness. Is this idea of a soul mate supported by the Bible? No, it is not. The concept of a soul mate is often used to justify divorce. Individuals unhappy in their marriage may claim they married the wrong person and should seek their true soul mate through divorce. This reasoning is merely an excuse and goes against biblical teachings. If you are married, your spouse is your soul mate. Mark 10:7-9 states, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” A husband and wife are “united,” “one flesh,” “no longer two, but one,” and “joined together,” meaning they are soul mates.
A marriage may lack the unity and joy a couple desires. They may not have the desired physical, emotional, and spiritual connection. However, even in such cases, the couple are still soul mates. They should strive to cultivate true “soul mate” intimacy by following the Bible’s guidance on marriage (Ephesians 5:22-33). Through this, they can develop the intimacy, love, and commitment that being “one flesh” soul mates involves. Regardless of marital discord, God can bring healing, forgiveness, restoration, and genuine marital love and harmony.
Is it possible to marry the wrong person? By surrendering to God and seeking His guidance, He promises to direct us: “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him.”and He will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6). The message of Proverbs 3:5-6 suggests that if you do not trust in the Lord with all your heart and rely on your own understanding, you may head in the wrong direction. It is indeed possible, during a period of disobedience and a lack of close fellowship with God, to marry someone whom He did not intend for you to marry. Even in such a situation, however, God is sovereign and in control.
Even if a marriage was not in line with God’s desire, it still falls within His sovereign will and plan. God detests divorce «For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously. », (Malachi 2:16), and “marrying the wrong person” is never cited in the Bible as a reason for divorce. The assertion “I married the wrong person and will never be happy unless I find my true soul mate” is unscriptural for two reasons. Firstly, it implies that your erroneous choice has overridden God’s will and disrupted His plan. Secondly, it suggests that God is incapable of transforming a struggling marriage into a happy, unified, and successful one. Nothing we do can thwart God’s sovereign will. God can take any two individuals, no matter how incompatible, and shape them into a harmonious couple.
If we maintain a close relationship with God, He will lead and direct us. If a person is walking with the Lord and genuinely seeking His will, God will guide that individual to the spouse He has in mind. God will lead us to our “soul mate” if we submit to Him and follow His guidance. However, being soul mates involves both a status and a practice. A husband and wife are soul mates in that they are “one flesh,” spiritually, physically, and emotionally united to each other. In practice, however, it entails a process of embracing what a couple
is, soulmates, and making that a day-by-day reality. True soulmate oneness is only achievable by following the biblical pattern of marriage.
