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Sex before marriage has become so common in our society that it is often expected, leading many Christians to overlook it as a sin. Our culture assumes that people lack the self-control needed to wait until marriage, deeming the idea unrealistic. However, God’s Word remains unchanged, and the Bible clearly states that engaging in sexual activity outside of marriage is immoral (Matthew 15:19;1 Corinthians 6:9,6:13,7:2;2 Corinthians 12:21;Galatians 5:19;Ephesians 5:3).
Any individual who becomes a born-again Christian through faith in Christ no longer belongs to themselves. First Corinthians 6:18-20 (NLT) instructs, “Flee from sexual immorality! All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”
Neglecting God’s design for marriage, sex, and family inevitably leads to spiritual and physical consequences such as grieving the Holy Spirit «And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. », (Ephesians 4:30), guilt, shame, regret, loss of self-respect and respect for others, family and believer discord, poor role modeling, pain for future spouses, unintended pregnancies, abortion, and sexually transmitted diseases. God intends sex to be a sacred expression of love and commitment, reserved solely for a husband and wife. Sex solely for physical pleasure is contrary to His plan.
Sex outside of marriage damages our spirituality and distances us from fellowship with God.
Anyone who has erred by engaging in sexual activity outside of marriage can be forgiven, even if it results in an unplanned pregnancy. First John 1:9 states, “But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from every wrong.” This does not imply that He will eliminate the consequences of our actions, but we can be spiritually restored by confessing and repenting from our sins. This entails turning away from our sins and making a commitment to love and serve Christ.
There are situations where it may be prudent to marry before the baby is born. If a committed couple who had already planned to marry engages in premarital sex resulting in pregnancy, it would likely be beneficial for the family and the child to marry before the birth. However, if an uncommitted couple commits the same sin, marrying will not rectify their actions in God’s sight. In such circumstances, marrying will only predispose them to marital failure. The Bible does not provide specific guidance on whether to marry under these circumstances, although both parents are still responsible for emotionally, spiritually, and financially supporting the child.
None of us are justified before God through our actions. We are saved by faith alone, placing our trust in Jesus Christ to deliver us from our sins, which lead to death. The Bible declares, “For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life through Christ Jesus our Lord” «For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.», (Romans 6:23). God does not expect us to correct our mistakes through our efforts, but He desires us to surrender our hearts to Him. By relinquishing our own will and submitting to God’s sovereignty, we can be confident of not only a meaningful life on earth but also an eternal place in heaven.
