How should Christians respond to someone with Asperger’s?

Answer

There is no “official” Christian stance on Asperger’s Syndrome. The biblical directive is, “Love your neighbor as yourself” «If ye fulfil the royal law according to the scripture, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself, ye do well: », (James 2:8). This command has no exceptions; Christians are to act in love toward individuals with Asperger’s just as they do toward everyone else.

Several biblical principles could be relevant to some of the symptoms commonly associated with Asperger’s. Here are some suggestions:

Be a friend «A friend loveth at all times, And a brother is born for adversity. », (Proverbs 17:17). Do not overlook individuals with Asperger’s. Engage them in conversation and demonstrate a genuine interest in what they say, even if you do not fully grasp the topic. If you are receiving more information than you require, it is acceptable to politely express to your Aspie friend that you feel overwhelmed, but be cautious not to display judgment or criticism. Stand up for those with Asperger’s and do not permit others to demean them.

Be direct «but speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ: », (Ephesians 4:15). Generally, individuals with Asperger’s do not easily grasp communication cues such as gestures, tone of voice, and body language. Avoid dropping hints; be explicit about your feelings and needs.

Be wise «If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. », (James 1:5). RResearch Asperger’s Syndrome to enhance your understanding of the Aspie you are ministering to. Also, do not solely depend on external sources for information; make an effort to personally get to know your Aspie friend and avoid making assumptions about them. Individuals with Asperger’s Syndrome typically prefer solitude. Be mindful of when to engage them in an activity and when it is best to give them space. Respect the Aspie’s routine and avoid imposing unnecessary changes on them.

Show love «And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. », (1 Peter 4:8). If “love covers over all wrongs” «Hatred stirreth up strifes: But love covereth all sins. », (Proverbs 10:12), then love can easily overlook the idiosyncrasies and quirks of the person with Asperger’s. Share each other’s burdens and fulfill the law of Christ «Bear ye one another’s burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ. », (Galatians 6:2). Follow the principle of love.

Be prayerful «Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much. », (James 5:16). A Christian is to “pray continually” «Quench not the Spirit. », (1 Thessalonians 5:19), so praying for a friend with Asperger’s should come naturally.

In Luke 10:29–37, Jesus tells a parable about a man who helped a stranger that had been attacked, robbed, and left for dead. In Jesus’ story, “A Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. HHe went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn, and took care of him” (verses 33–34). When Jesus’ audience identified the Samaritan as a man who showed mercy, He said to them, “Go and do likewise” (verse 37). Clearly, we honor God by displaying Christian compassion and mercy toward others in times of need. Christians should be aware of the unique needs of those with Asperger’s Syndrome and be willing to demonstrate the love of God to encourage and uplift them.