How can I find comfort when an unsaved loved one has died?

Answer

For believers, the death of an unsaved loved one is very challenging. At times, it may feel like we will never find solace or peace of mind knowing the fate that awaits the unsaved. When a saved loved one passes away, we experience a sense of loss, but our grief is different from “those who have no hope” «But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope. », (1 Thessalonians 4:13), because we believe in the future reunion in heaven.

However, for those who die without Christ, the prospect of never seeing them again makes finding comfort very challenging.

Particularly for those who have made significant efforts to share Gospel truths with their loved ones, there is a profound sense of anguish that raises questions of “why?” As Christians, we are puzzled by how anyone could reject such a precious gift. Our own delight in the Lord compels us to desire that same joy for others. Yet, the reality is that despite the universal invitation, some will choose not to accept the gift. Nevertheless, we can find solace, motivation, and confidence in the assurance that even if we do not reunite with our loved ones, God remains faithful and just. It is truly remarkable to comprehend God’s enduring patience and His open invitation.

“Shall not the Judge of all the earth do right” «That be far from thee to do after this manner, to slay the righteous with the wicked: and that the righteous should be as the wicked, that be far from thee: Shall not the Judge of all the earth do right? », (Genesis 18:25)? This brings immense comfort to those of us who have lost loved ones and are uncertain about the destiny of their souls. God is the ultimate righteous Judge, overflowing with justice.Grace and mercy are extended to all who call upon Him. It is His very justice that provides a “way” for everyone to avoid the judgment of His righteousness, and it is in that justice that we must find our rest. It is grace that rescues us, and it is in grace that we must stand when we experience the double sorrow of losing an unsaved loved one. We must acknowledge that we cannot make this decision for anyone else, and if they entered eternity without Christ, it was their decision despite the offer of grace.

While we may feel pain when remembering that loved one during our earthly life and as we grieve, there will come a moment when every believer will be united with the Lord. On that day, “God will wipe away all tears from their eyes; there will be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying, nor pain, for the former things have passed away” «And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away. », (Revelation 21:4). We cannot fully grasp how that will be since we exist in time and are limited by our finite minds. Nevertheless, just contemplating that brings solace and strength. When we behold the Lord, all the grief we currently endure will vanish. “So you have sorrow now, but I will see you again and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you” «And ye now therefore have sorrow: but I will see you again, and your heart shall rejoice, and your joy no man taketh from you. », (John 16:22). In the meantime, we can rely on the eternal arms of God, who understands our pain and consoles us with His immense love and mercy.