What does it mean that love is not rude (1 Corinthians 13:5)?

Answer

The depiction of love in 1 Corinthians 13 includes a catalog of what love is not. It is mentioned that love “is not rude” in verse 5. Therefore, love is characterized by good manners.

The Greek expression could be accurately translated as “does not act unbecomingly” or “does not act inappropriately.” Christian love does not aim to create issues and does not diminish others. Christian love entails making thoughtful choices in actions and responses that benefit others.

Rudeness is increasingly tolerated in today’s society. Behaviors and language in public that were once unimaginable are now ordinary. We are currently experiencing what essayist Merrill Markoe in the Wall Street Journal describes as a “renaissance of rudeness.” The truth is that rudeness stems from selfishness. Etiquette serves to minimize the conflicts in human interactions; impoliteness exposes a lack of regard for others. An impolite individual conveys that “it’s all about me.” Love, on the other hand, cannot be self-centered because love cares about the well-being of others. Therefore, love is considerate.

When Christians bear witness to their beliefs and defend their faith, they are instructed to do so “with gentleness and respect” «but sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: », (1 Peter 3:15). In essence, we are to testify in a loving and polite manner. This does not imply that Christians should never criticize the actions of others. The gospel message denounces sin and urges sinners to repentance and faith in Jesus.«And the times of this ignorance God winked at; but now commandeth all men every where to repent: », (Acts 17:30). However, there is a right way and wrong way to do anything, and speaking against sin need not be abrasive. Christians are called to speak the truth in love «but speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things, which is the head, even Christ: », (Ephesians 4:15), and, as we know, love is not rude.

A husband who loves his wife will not treat her rudely but with courtesy and respect. A pastor who loves his congregation will not speak of them condescendingly to others. A Christian who loves his neighbor will remember his manners and act in a decorous, fitting way. A life of love is shown in our words and actions and will impact others to bring glory to the Lord.