Raising children is not as easy as it seems. Many people desire to have children, but when they realize the responsibility that implies, this beautiful dream can turn into a nightmare. It is common to see frustrated parents for not knowing how to control their children. In the worst cases, children act like parents and parents let their children manipulate them.
It is not the right thing to do. There is no magic book, but there is the master book, and that is the Bible. In there, God gives you the necessary tools for you to know how to raise your children the right way.
3 aspects to take into account when raising your children:
- Children are a heritage from the Lord.
Yes, they are given from God to you. You are supposed to take care of that unique treasure, Psalm 127:3. You have to know that responsibility comes with this beautiful gift. You, as parents, have to learn how to administrate your time and resources to spend time with your children.
You are the ones in charge of all that concerns them, physically and emotionally, it is not your parents, grandparents, friends, in-laws’ business, it is al your business, so God will demand that from you.
- Children need you to guide them
You are the one able and responsible for them to follow the right path. God advice to parents, “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it,” Proverbs 22:6. So, you are the right person to raise your children. Giving them the necessary teaching for them to know what they should or shouldn’t do.
The primary teaching must be on the word of God, the Bible. It will give them all the benefits they require to live a good life. Do you want the best for your children? Make them get in love with the word of God for them to put it into practice.
There are many other teachings your children have to learn, but for that to happen, you have to live those teachings first. You have to live a life of integrity. Children know when you lie, so if you tell them to live what you do not put into practice, don’t expect them to respect you. Do you want your children to have values? Model for them a life with values, not only by words but with your actions.
- Children need you to correct them
Some people believe that showing love is only the act of smiling, giving presents, satisfying all children’s desires, etc. However, according to the Bible, that is the best manual for the human to follow, showing love goes beyond only being pleasing children. The act of showing love for them implies congratulating them when they do things well and correcting them when they do things wrong. Why? Because you love them, you want the best for them and you, too. If you do not correct your children when they do something wrong, they will think everything is ok and are going to repeat the same behavior over and over again not only with others but with you, too. The key is when you are going to correct them. You have to correct them with love.
God, the good Father, is the best example to follow. His word states: “because the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and he chastens everyone he accepts as his son,” Hebrews 12:6-7.
You have to know how important it is to take into account God’s advice when raising children. If you apply them, your life and your children will be a blessing for you and others.
“The proverbs of Solomon: A wise son brings joy to his father, but a foolish son brings grief to his mother.” Proverbs 10:1
“If a child is corrected, he becomes wise. But a child left to himself brings shame to his mother”. Proverbs 29:15
Pray and read the Bible to learn how to teach your children the right way. If you did it wrong in the past, don´t worry, today is a new opportunity God gives you to start again and do it according to his will for you to see his blessing in your life and your family´s.