Addiction is a term that is not only related to dependence of a particular drug or chemical; it also involves an inability to stop partaking in activities, such as gambling, eating, or working. In these circumstances, a person has a behavioral addiction.
When a person experiences addiction, they cannot control how they use a substance or partake in an activity, and they become dependent on it to cope with daily life.
In this case, we are going to talk about one of the most difficult things to face as a parent when finding out your child has an addiction. Whether to video games, drugs, alcohol, or porn, addiction can be devastating on a family nucleus. However, there is hope, and part of healing of a person who is addicted is the support of their family members.
The first step to help an addict is recognizing there is a problem. Ignoring the situation does not bring any help. That´s why, you, as parents, must get rid of all preconception for getting good result in your child healing.
The following statements are the most common lies used for parents whose children are addicts:
- My child is not addicted.
It is common on Families of addicts to avoid the problem by paying no attention to the problem. Often they don’t understand the complexities of addiction. They do not realize what the disease of addiction can do to a person. This is a terrible mistake because if the problem is ignored, the addict destroys his or her own life, and usually the families as well.
- It’s not as bad as it seems.
Addiction is never invisible; although it seems that is only a problem of the addict, it is not true. The behavior of an addict is often irrational and unpredictable. They tent to become angry and agitated over little things.
- Everybody’s going through this.
Nothing related to addiction is normal. It is a repeated involvement with a substance or activity, despite the substantial harm it causes. When a person wants more and more what he/she is addicted to, it breaks the standards to what we called normal.
- We don’t have to deal with this now.
Family members must come to understand that their own happiness cannot be linked directly to the addict’s recovery and behavior. They cannot allow the addict’s behavior to steal their own happiness and joy, or keep them from accomplishing God’s purpose and plan for their lives. It is hard to see a loved fighting to addiction.
However, thinking “They can get help later” is not going to solve the problem. To get better results, it is important to cut it off as soon as you know the problem is there. It is necessary to find the help and support you, as parents, need and the addict needs to get well. The longer the addiction looms, the harder it will be to counteract.
Humanly speaking, an addiction circle is difficult to cure and it has the ability to wreck relationships. However, there is hope in Jesus. He is the one who can bring peace in the midst of trials. But there are also multiple programs that offer hope, healing, and support for both the addict and loved ones of the addict. Parents need to put away the lies so they can deal with the truth about addiction, and find the help they need for themselves and their child.
Recognizing there is problem is the first step, and then find help in God. Talk to him about the problem for him to open doors and bring the people and strategies needed to get the victory for you and your child. Bible says “I am the LORD, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me?” Jeremiah 32:27 . Trust the Lord, he is your helper!